People and other things of that ilk...

There's this saying that from time to time rears it little head that goes something like - people come into and out of our lives for a reason or a season, enjoy them while you can, and remember them when their gone, they all serve a purpose, some blatantly others, well we just don't know why but we know there was a reason - okay so it's a paraphrase of a couple of phrases but hey it's my rambling so flow with it.


Friends will come and go, some times repeatedly. It's cliché but it's true, at least in my world and in that way I truly do feel blessed. I am so very grateful for all the people who have come into my world, are presently in my world, or just briefly passed through. I manage to learn something from each and everyone of them and without them I might have missed something great. So I thank you all here and now, cause I know I haven't always been the best "fill in the blank here" but I've treasured and continue to treasure what ever we had, did or said. Even the bad stuff, it is what makes me a better (or worse - you choose) person.

With the advent of technology it is so much easier to stay in touch with long lost friends and family, but is it - easier I mean - I have dear friends who are so far away (and right next door) who have for many years been out of my reach, mostly because of laziness on my part, but out of my reach none the less. And yet here, with the advent of such wonderful things as Email, Facebook, Twitter and the like I am able to daily see their faces and surreptitiously watch small snippets of their todays and feel if only briefly that I am apart of their lives once again.

The same goes with family. Now I don't have a very large family and for me that's good. I have a lot of difficulty working out side my immediate surroundings so a large family is just not really what I was made for, but my family - what little there is - is important to me. I may not be demonstrative in the ways that I should but that doesn't diminish their importance to me and so I like being able, once again, if only briefly, to be a part of their everyday lives as well.

So, for good or bad technology has allowed even the laziest of us to maintain some sort of "relationship" with other humans whom we may or may not have been able to keep track of without it. But is it a good thing? I mean if there's a "reason for the season" wouldn't the fates be a little perturbed that we keep a person a part of our lives through this technology long after their shelf date?

Here's my thought - I tend to go with the everything happens for a reason rule. If I'm not supposed to be in these peoples lives or they aren't supposed to be in my then my friend request will just be rejected right?

Or maybe, just maybe, by sheer dumb luck- my shelf life has been extended. Or...perhaps there's just simply more I'm supposed to learn.

That's all.

How did this Happen!!!

I am momentarily stunned. Okay, I shouldn't be stunned or surprised, but I am. I just realized my children, my babies, are going into 3rd and 5th grade....how did that happen and whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy......

As a mom who works to keep herself and her family in the life to which they are accustom I have these moments where I look around and go "Hey, what happened?"

I know, I know parents, all around the world working or not have these moments too and I'm not special in my horror that all of a sudden my babies aren't babies anymore - but heck this is my blog so indulge me.

I mean look, I remember the diapers, the teething, the walking, the falling, the pre K first days and all the other firsts, I was there I know they happened. But every so often there's just a moment, a brief gut wrenching heart breaking moment where you go - oh gosh, I didn't know, I want to go back, I want to put it all on hold and freeze for a bit please and thank you life - just hold on a darn minute with your rushing.

We all do the best we can with the time and resources we are given. And I'm sure I'm not the only one to stop and say "Wait, is it enough, am I doing it right?" These moments of self doubt and concern are always looming, but so glaringly noticeable only when you, let's say, pull up the school supply list in preparation for another year of school and realize that your oldest is in FIFTH GRADE and has only this year and next before he goes on to MIDDLE SCHOOL and your youngest is in THIRD GRADE and already half way to middle school. WAIT A STINKIN MINUTE!!!!! I'm not READY......

But alas, they are, and so must I. I see them every day so the changes aren't really as noticeable until things like school supply lists point out that hey, yup they are your loveable huggable cuddly children, but they are older then you think.

A mother's lament of sorts I suppose. Now off to prepare for another year of school!

That's all.

Purses and wallets and bags oh my!

Yet another addiction in my dysfunctional life....bags. Love them, hate them, covet them, want them, ugggghhhh....so materialistic, but I must, for lack of any sort of morality confess, I do love a good bag.


Okay so between this and my techno gadget piece readers must think that I am NOTHING but a materialistic horrible person and to some I may be just that. But to those who know me, they just call me dysfunctional! HA. Anyway, my caveat to this labeling thing is this, I don't currently have the where wherewithal to afford many of these coveted items, but that can't stop me from dreaming of one day opening that gorgeous shiny box from .... wait wait wait...I digress. Okay on with the blog!

What is it about "things" that causes some of us to drool so? I mean, we're constantly preached at - okay maybe it's just me but I feel I'm constantly preached at - that "things" are bad, wanting "things" is bad, having materialistic wants is bad cause stuff is just stuff and the important "things" in life are not the tangible objects/belongings that many of us cling too (yes I say many and you people know who I'm talking too.... 600,000 Iphone 4s sold within in seconds of being available for pre order, yeah you!), but the intangible that are the most important. I believe that to be true. So if my intangibles are good, why can't I indulge guilt free in the tangibles?

Here's my limited take on life, my life, as I see it. I am a lucky human. I have love, I give love, I am loved. I also dislike, am disliked and loathed. Chaos reigns my world but it's my chaos and I manage.

I have a job, which so many poor souls don't have at this moment, and I work hard to keep it. (hard is a relative term of course) I have a home, I may rent it but it's mine (for now). I don't have a driving want to own a home as most "normal" people do, but I do have a driving want for "things". Maybe one day I'll want to own a home, but then again maybe I won't, that's my choice.

So long as my family is happy, healthy and cared for why should I care what others say about by love of "things". I shouldn't and yet I do. Ah, yet one of my many endearing neuroses. I will tell you this however, I'm caring a lot less now then I used to. Life is short, time is fleeting, and being happy (of course not at the cost of others happiness if I can help it) is the goal.

People, you can't take it with you - you can leave it to your children, grandchildren, others in need, but you can't take it with you - and darn it you worked hard for it so why shouldn't you enjoy it!

Someone once told me that want and need are two different things.  That someone was an idiot.  Obviously want and need are two different things, and to every individual wants and needs are defined differently.  There really aren't many things I need, truly my "needs" are more my intangibles.  Now, wants that's another story, I have MANY wants...does that make me a bad person...to some it does and to them I say look, here's the deal - I won't throw stones at your glass house if you don't throw stones at mine. 

That's all.